You know what? Fuck your feelings, snowflake! Fuck mine too! You want to be professional and want someone else to leave emotion out of a fight, you’re gonna have to not cry when they say something mean. You want them to get a grip on their emotions, you’re gonna have to not let it bother you.
Why do I say this?
You’ve dictated the other person get control of their emotions yet, you don’t reciprocate that order. Do as I say, not as I do. Hypocrisy! Ethically speaking, you can’t cry to your boss when he or she comes at you with a problem with you. A coworker coming up to you, you can’t get all sad and upset about it. Ethically, you’re at a loss.
But you are human. You have the ability to resist emotion. Others and your own. You have the ability to deny yourself satisfaction of sexual intercourse with your partner. Denying yourself orgasm and satisfaction by it. If you can resist sexual tension, why not emotional fighting?
Get in tune with your physical core. Meditate, do yoga… just be aware of your own posturing and how you deal with people. Only 10% of life is what happens to you, 90% is how you react to it. That’s the starting point. Figure out where to go from there. Reach out to professionals if you must get help. But it still falls back on you to not excuse yourself. If you want to be treated like an equal, you should first size yourself up and see how you match up. You might not find equality but almost anything can be justified with the right argument.
But your path is based on your steps. Don’t misstep. Don’t be trippin’. You have no idea how many people will take advantage of you when you’re down.